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Signs of NOT Changing

Signs of NOT Changing
  • Does your partner tell you that you are the one that is abusive?
  • Does your partner use Emerge group sessions or information against you in any way?
  • Is your partner pressuring you to go to therapy for yourself or couples counseling for the two of you?
  • Is your partner minimizing the abuse in the Emerge group? (You can ask the group leaders what your partner is reporting in the groups.)
  • Does your partner demand a second chance?
  • Does your partner say that it is impossible to change without your support?
  • Does your partner try to get sympathy from you or the children?
  • Do you have to keep after your partner to attend Emerge meetings and stay in the program?
  • Does your partner expect something in return from you for attending Emerge?
  • Is your partner pressuring you to make up your mind about the relationship or to move back in together?
  • Is your partner pressuring you to drop criminal charges or your restraining order?
  • Is your partner attempting to blackmail you into dropping criminal charges or your restraining order?
  • Abusers may pressure you to stay with them while they attend Emerge; this is a tactic of abuse and control. If they are serious about changing, they will respect your wishes about the relationship.

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